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Recommended by Helen
Birth Crisis by Sheila Kitzinger (Rating *****)

"I read this book in one sitting the afternoon it arrived, waiting desperately for my toddler to fall asleep so I could read it in peace. Just reading the Contents page gave reassurance that the book spoke about the issues that were troubling me, and would provide some much-needed help with sorting through the confused thoughts that I have. On reading further I was not disappointed, but comforted, cheered, consoled, and strengthened by turns. I felt that I was not the odd one out, and was allowed and perfectly justified in feeling the way I did.
There were a few sticky moments of panic reading some of the stories, but all in all, I found this book a huge relief to read. Well recommended."

Suggested by Helen
Coping with Postnatal Depression by Dr Sandra L. Wheatley (Rating *****)

"This book "does what it says on the tin": helps you to cope. It explains PND and what it is, and why you might have it, but more than half of the book is devoted to helping you to help yourself. There are suggestions for tiny little things that make you feel better, that you can do even if it's a "can't brush my hair" day, and explanations of the big things to tackle, like therapy and anti-depressants. I found this book the most helpful in giving me coping tactics, where lots of other books are big on the science of why, but help was thin on the ground."

Suggested by Helen
Depression After Childbirth" by Dr Katharina Dalton
(Rating *)

"If you have a desperate need to know why, then this book has a lot of science, which always helps you to understand what's happening, so long as you have a science degree (luckily I have, but that's beside the point). At the beginning there is a list of 28 figures, the most esoteric of which must be: 10, The formulae for progesterone, norethisterone, and testosterone. Despite being a molecular biologist, knowing the molecular formulae for the hormones involved does not stop you crying because you're lonely, bored and hate your life. I think it might be useful for the professionals to read, but don't expect any hands-on real help."

Suggested by Helen
The Ghost in the House: Mothers, Children and Depression by Tracy Thompson (Rating ****)

"A fairly recent American book, written by a mother who suffered from PND, as did her mother and grandmother. Her experience of parenting through depression (hers is not just postnatal), and also of having been parented by a mother with depression, led her to write this book. If her mother's depression contributed to her own, would it then cause her daughters to have depression? A scary thought, and she confronts this fear and points out ways in which to stop the effects of your own depression from harming your children. The second chapter of this book points out the huge amount of work being a mother involves, much of which goes unnoticed and unappreciated by society, and which is not rewarded with pay or status. Realising this stops the feeling you have achieved nothing at the end of yet another baby-filled day. Her writing tells her family's story and that of others, on her journey of exploration of motherhood and depression, and ends up with the vital chapters on how she and others actually coped with their condition, and some tips and tricks for daily life. Fascinating, touching and helpful."

Suggested by Helen
The Best Friend's Guide to Motherhood by Vivki Iovine (Rating ****)
"This book is on our side: at the front is a top ten list of the biggest shocks of childbirth, and number one is: How nobody ever told you how much it REALLY hurts to have a baby. A lighthearted book that nevertheless gets to grips with baby reality, written by a mum, with extra insight from her group of Best Friends. The PND chapter has real comfort and advice, delivered in a humorous, friendly way. It goes on to discuss the happy little stories of beautiful births that have nothing to do with reality, but cause so much grief when afterwards we didn't get our fairytale birth. A chapter on changed relationships helps make sense of the confusion over how a family fits into the space you filled as a couple."

This quote gives a flavour of the whole book:

"There are three types of new mothers.

1. The type who give birth and resume their lives with confidence, clear thinking and enthusiasm.
2. The type who give birth and wish that a fairy godmother would make the baby disappear and restore them to their former life; and
3. The rest of us."

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Suggested by Hari
Birthing From Within by Pam England; Rob Horowitz
 
This is a fantastic book for anyone who is pregnant and has had a previous traumatic delivery. It is one of the few books that does not approach birth from a physiological perspective. It is full of interesting exercises to help you de-brief the trauma and prepare for your next birth.  The book empathises and empowers some of the methods are practical such as using art in exploring birth and feelings around birth. But it also explores different experiences and attitudes to birth. This is a very kind book and the most useful tool I found when approaching birth for the second and third time - with some considerable trepidation.  I highly recommend it.